Success requires showing up.

Success requires showing up.

  • March 25, 2014

Sometimes, the toughest part of a difficult conversation is showing up. Show up to a difficult conversation insufficiently prepared, and you’ll likely make a mess. You may make a much bigger mess by showing up too late or not at all. But what if you don’t feel ready? Ask anybody…

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Got Dragon Breath?

Got Dragon Breath?

  • March 1, 2014

Are you regularly setting people’s ears on fire when you talk? Hold your dragon breath, please. One of my favorite cartoons as a kid growing up in Austria was the story of Grisu, the little dragon. His dream was to become … a fireman. There was only one little problem:…

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Forgive. Because You Deserve Peace.

Forgive. Because You Deserve Peace.

  • February 15, 2014

We often resist the notion of forgiveness.  Why should we let people who hurt us off the hook, when they clearly don’t deserve it? Set aside for a moment whether or not someone deserves to be forgiven. Instead, ask yourself: Do I deserve to forgive that person, so that I can…

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Bow.  Learn.  Repeat.

Bow. Learn. Repeat.

  • January 15, 2014

In my martial arts journey, I have learned countless important life lessons.  Some basic and obvious, some rather complex and subtle.  What they all have in common is that I keep learning them, over and over again.  I’m never “done” – just further along on the journey, with a deeper…

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Leave Knowing You Did, Rather Than Wishing You Had.

Leave Knowing You Did, Rather Than Wishing You Had.

  • January 1, 2014

‘Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.’  ‘Stuck between a rock and a hard place.’  ‘Whatever I do, it’s wrong.  I just can’t win.’ Unfortunately, this describes the underlying sentiment of many unresolved conflicts, and is often the reason why they are not addressed.  When faced with the prospect…

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Going in Circles?

Going in Circles?

  • December 15, 2013

Do some conflicts leave you feeling like a spinning top?  Hopelessly dizzy from going around and around, waiting to fall down because you’re running out of steam? You know what I’m talking about – those arguments about what appear to be “the issues” that just keep going in circles.  Who…

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No Blocking, Please.

No Blocking, Please.

  • December 1, 2013

I was icing my bruised forearms, feeling grateful.  Not because all my bones were still intact.  Okay, maybe that too.  I was grateful for the opportunity to participate in an advanced martial arts seminar with the grandmaster, a tenth degree black belt in Kenpo Karate.  I was grateful for deepening…

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Behind the Black Belt Mediation Blog

Behind the Black Belt Mediation Blog

  • November 15, 2013

My goal as a peacemaker is to help resolve conflicts the black belt way – quickly and efficiently, with respect and with the least possible amount of damage to everybody involved. No, I don’t propose you just hit the other guy. This blog looks at conflict resolution through a different…

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