Lighthouses Don’t Float.

Lighthouses Don’t Float.

  • March 17, 2016

A simple fact worth remembering: Lighthouses don’t float. We all know that, yet we don’t always act like it. When a single lighthouse shines out to sea at night, countless vessels can navigate safely. (Daisaku Ikeda) It took me a long time to truly understand this quote, and to put it…

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Writing a different conflict story.

Writing a different conflict story.

  • June 8, 2014

Meet the helpless victim and the villain. They’re in every conflict story.  Now let’s edit. When people talk about a conflict, their stories follow a remarkably predictable pattern: Poor me. He/she is so [insert unflattering description of the other person here]. And there is nothing I can do about it. In…

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Bow.  Learn.  Repeat.

Bow. Learn. Repeat.

  • January 15, 2014

In my martial arts journey, I have learned countless important life lessons.  Some basic and obvious, some rather complex and subtle.  What they all have in common is that I keep learning them, over and over again.  I’m never “done” – just further along on the journey, with a deeper…

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No Blocking, Please.

No Blocking, Please.

  • December 1, 2013

I was icing my bruised forearms, feeling grateful.  Not because all my bones were still intact.  Okay, maybe that too.  I was grateful for the opportunity to participate in an advanced martial arts seminar with the grandmaster, a tenth degree black belt in Kenpo Karate.  I was grateful for deepening…

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Behind the Black Belt Mediation Blog

Behind the Black Belt Mediation Blog

  • November 15, 2013

My goal as a peacemaker is to help resolve conflicts the black belt way – quickly and efficiently, with respect and with the least possible amount of damage to everybody involved. No, I don’t propose you just hit the other guy. This blog looks at conflict resolution through a different…

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